Delayed Happiness is Denied Happiness

Hello, !

😩“Next season…”

😳”After the kids are older…”

😬“When business calms down…”

Delaying our life is as easy as breathing.

👉We are rushing around, barely keeping up with all the expectations laid upon us - 

👉Never taking the time to pause and ask - 

🤔“Is this even the life I want?”

Woah - that’s a big question - and it can feel too scary to even consider.  

🔥But what’s even scarier is if we NEVER give ourselves permission to ask it.

🤔I’ve had more than a few clients coming to me, burnt out and ready to quit - 

• on a relationship
• on a business or career they used to love
• on their potential, on their long held dream

I understand.  It’s hard to keep longing for better while it feels like it’s getting worse, day by day.

But here’s a secret - 

🔥I’ve never had a client who ACTUALLY quit on their dreams.

💡💡Because it’s not our DREAMS we need to quit to feel better - 

It’s our DOUBTS.

But that’s easier said than done.

Question - How Do I Quit My Doubts?

Most people make the mistake of not quitting their doubts so much as denying they exist, shoving them down into the pit of their stomach, and faking confidence with a bright smile and a cheery #blessed!!!

What happens next?  The doubt grows in the dark, spreading into new areas, fed by little critical remarks here and there, until it has the power to take us down on a hard day.

Doubt is a cancer to our soul.

“Faking it till we make it” will backfire, and, left unchecked, our doubts will crowd out, and then crush our faith.

But there’s a better way to deal with doubt - 

The Counterintuitive Way to Eradicate Doubt - 

Step 1 - Confess it.

There’s a story in the Bible about a man who came to Jesus, asking that his child be healed.  And Jesus asked him, “Do you believe?  All things are possible to those who believe.”

And the man, in a moment of gut-wrenching honesty, cried out and confessed - 

“Lord, I believe. Help THOU my unbelief!”

That man knew he couldn’t fake it. Jesus was a mind reader.  

But he didn’t need to.

Because he knew something we forget - 

Confession is the first step to BETTER BELIEF.

When we confess our doubts, we are being HONEST with ourselves.  We are facing the reality of our situation, and we are DEFINING the gap between our current reality and our future dreams.

And now we know.  We know where to shift our attention, where to look for solutions, where to grow, so that we move toward those dreams.

Step 2 - ReThink Our Doubts

My favorite question to ask when working with a client to move past doubts is to simply ask - 

But what if?  

But what if it IS possible to have both?

But what if it could work out - how would that look?

But what if the little you can do can make a difference - what would you be willing to do?

And that leads us to…

Step 3 - ReFocus on Simple Solutions

What if creating a habit of SUCCESS could be the EASIER path?

What if we could start with a baby step, then another step, then build a habit, then build on that success, layer by layer, until we reach the pinnacle goal?

What if?

And if that is possible, then the next question is this - 

Why NOT?

Why not me?

Why not now?

Why would I possibly keep hitting the pause button on my happiness?

Flashback video - 

Be Loved,

PS - By asking Better Questions, we gain Better Insight.  That is the heart and soul of self-coaching.  

I give you these questions so that you can become your own best coach.

And, if you’d like personalized support, I offer a 12 Week Clarity Program.

In this private, 1-1 high touch coaching program, you will gain 

1. Clarity regarding your desired future, your values, your priorities
2. A plan that is doable because it maximizes your STRENGTHS
3. The confidence that comes from seeing your life change rapidly

And the first step?  Book a Clarity call.  In this 45 minute call, we will determine 2 things - 

1. What you really desire
2. The next best step

🔥Remember, Life wasn’t meant to be HARD; it was meant to be LIVED.